See, before I met my boyfriend, I wasn’t confident in myself as a person. I was looking at these guys and thinking ‘oh my goodness, he is so out of my league…’
Chances are, had I dated these guys, I would have lost myself. Not their fault, but mine. I would have been so eager to please them so I could just to keep them, that I would have even accepted ill-treatment from them.
Don’t get me wrong. I am not saying my current relationship is perfect, but I am my own person. I am not giving so much of me until I feel there isn’t much of me left. I am not left drained emotionally trying to keep up with a man’s selfish demands. I am free to be myself (crazy-self, smart-self, strong-self and fragile-self) and that’s what a relationship is about. That you be yourself and be appreciated for who you are and what you have to offer.
So, if you are alone this Valentine’s Day, don’t worry or feel sad about, it’s all for a reason. Don’t feel desperate to be with someone, there’s absolutely nothing wrong with being alone. And I often used to remind myself when I was single ‘I’d rather wait for the real thing that to chase after fake.’
Use this time to grow as an individual. If you want the real thing – then upgrade yourself to being the real thing.
I mean, if you wanting a man with certain high standards, then at least have half of those standards yourself, it’s only fair. And I know some will be quick to think I am referring to financial standards, partly yes. But it’s so much more than that; there are emotional standards, educational standards, social standards etc. you can’t want to have a non-smoker while you smoke, you have to give a little, to get a little.
But never settle.
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