Suffer little unforgiving heart…

We all know the bible verse “…A joyful heart is good medicine, But a broken spirit dries up the bones” (Prov 17v22) but do we really understand it.

There was a time I hated hearing it, I was in so much pain and hurt. I didn’t want anything but to just recount and replay in my head all that happened to me. All the wrongs that were done to me were somehow precious to me.

I was very young and bitter. Saddest thing is, the people who hurt me couldn’t have cared less if I was alive or dead.

And because they didn’t care, I started feeling less and less important; but more and more loving the thought of being a victim.

As time went, I realised that I was watching my life pass me by. I was wasting time being consumed in hatred and anger. While my peers were going for their dreams, I was sobbing every day.

I wanted to be happy, cheerful and ambitious again, but it was so foreign to me.

So I started doing things differently…

1.       I began by giving myself permission. Permission to laugh, to learn, to be wrong and not give myself a 3^rd degree, but rather accept that mistakes happen and the best thing it to learn from them.

 

2.       I forgave. I named every single person who wronged me and forgave them.

 

3.       Then I forgave me. Yes, there were times when I was so harsh and hard on myself and was really being unfair.

 

4.       I started listening more. Giving people a chance and really listen to their point of you. I learned that not every single person is the same. And there is good in all people.

 

 

5.       I accepted that I cannot ever change my past. It happened; ooh but guess what? I am still here because there is more for me to achieve, learn and enjoy.

 

6.       I started dreaming again and oh what amazing dreams have come into my heart and mind.

7.       I am still learning every day to be merry and cheerful…

Be blessed beyond.

Fortunate

Maturity comes from experience.

Maturity isn’t just about how old one is. It’s a lot of processes that one has gone through to certify them matured.

For instance one may have a great job with amazing benefits, but because they haven’t had any life lessons on money they might spend their earnings anyhow.

But one who has had a fair share of either poverty or financial strain will spend their earnings different.

Maturity comes from experience.

So why then are we quick to judge those who seem to be slow in grasping life. I mean we also didn’t know better until it happened to us. And did we even ask for “life changing experiences” to happen to us? No we didn’t; it just happened and we were changed by them.

It’s about awareness; calmly seeking understanding and as a result we become mature.

We all know life is the best teacher; but if life has taught others about certain things/experiences yet, how then do you judge?

For a girl who has had it all knows different to a girl who has never had it. She probably doesn’t know that one won’t die if they pass one day without a meal. She may also not know that one can be happy even without branded clothes.

Judge less and learn more.

Be blessed Beyond J

Fortunate.

Reap Time.

It’s amazing how people often have us all figured out. When we succeed, they assume our down fall is just around the corner.

But, they quite wrong actually!

We have been beaten and battered by struggles with poverty, insecurities and all else and now it’s Reap Time.

Our faith and hopes finally give birth to the realization of our dreams.

So yeah, I am blessed and it’s about to get even blessier!!

Deuteronomy 28:12 The LORD will open the heavens, the storehouse of his bounty, to send rain on your land in season and to bless all the work of your hands. You will lend to many nations but will borrow from none.

So I am going to sit back and be present in my blessings, just as I was present in my trails.

I am Blessed Beyond.

To all single sisters - Happy Valentine's Day!!

I am truly glad I missed out on some potential relationships when I was single, although it hurt at the time, today I look at the kind of relationship I have with my boyfriend and I am thankful.

See, before I met my boyfriend, I wasn’t confident in myself as a person. I was looking at these guys and thinking ‘oh my goodness, he is so out of my league…’

Chances are, had I dated these guys, I would have lost myself. Not their fault, but mine. I would have been so eager to please them so I could just to keep them, that I would have even accepted ill-treatment from them.

Don’t get me wrong. I am not saying my current relationship is perfect, but I am my own person. I am not giving so much of me until I feel there isn’t much of me left. I am not left drained emotionally trying to keep up with a man’s selfish demands. I am free to be myself (crazy-self, smart-self, strong-self and fragile-self) and that’s what a relationship is about. That you be yourself and be appreciated for who you are and what you have to offer.

So, if you are alone this Valentine’s Day, don’t worry or feel sad about, it’s all for a reason. Don’t feel desperate to be with someone, there’s absolutely nothing wrong with being alone. And I often used to remind myself when I was single ‘I’d rather wait for the real thing that to chase after fake.’

Use this time to grow as an individual. If you want the real thing – then upgrade yourself to being the real thing.

I mean, if you wanting a man with certain high standards, then at least have half of those standards yourself, it’s only fair. And I know some will be quick to think I am referring to financial standards, partly yes. But it’s so much more than that; there are emotional standards, educational standards, social standards etc. you can’t want to have a non-smoker while you smoke, you have to give a little, to get a little.

But never settle.